The dilemma of a Working Mom
For sure, this question has been running in your mind for the millionth time especially if you’re a new mom who’s returning to work after her maternity leave. It is common to have a sense of guilt lingering deep within as you don’t feel right to leave your baby and return to work. Some mothers are looking forward to return to work and resume their pre-pregnancy career while some mothers may not be able to do so for various reasons. Whichever category you may fall in, do remember that as a mom, you are making the best and right decision for you and your child. So embrace your decision guilt-free!
For mother’s looking at returning to work after their confinement leave, there are several things that you can do to prepare yourself for this ‘new phase’ as a working mom. It is totally understandable that it isn’t easy and can get overwhelming for many. More so, with the post-partum blues still lingering around, the feelings that come with this change can overpower and topple you over if not managed well. Every mom has experienced the same and survived this emotional turmoil. Here are some ways that you can employ to help ease this transition of getting back to work.
Come up with a work plan
Firstly, you need to come up with a schedule you can work around. You need to know the best stage to return to work and how much time or commitment you can give professionally and personally. Once you have your personal as well as the baby’s routine lined up, it will lift a heavy burden off your chest as you have a clearer perspective of things.
Discuss on your new needs & requirement
Next, making your needs and requirements known is essential. Having a chat with your boss about back-to-work plans can ease the stress and transitioning into the workplace. Let your needs be known and reach an arrangement you both agree. Some might prefer to start by working from home or working shorter hours at the office. If you are ok to start full-time, then go ahead. Do what works best for you.
Get a trusted childcare service
This point is so crucial because only if you have a trusted person taking care of your baby, can you go back to work in peace without worrying every second how your baby is doing. You can either get a family member to do so or engage any professional childcare service. Finding another person who is trustworthy and loving towards our child might take a while but if you look hard enough, you will find the right people to assist you. Do a thorough background research as well as check reviews before entrusting someone with your bundle of joy.
For breastfeeding moms, create a pumping routine
If you have been breastfeeding your baby and intent to carry on, then creating a pumping routine will ease your struggles of returning to work and worrying about your baby’s milk supply. Get a small, quiet and comfortable pump which you can use on the go, preferably hands-free, so it will not interrupt your work timeline. In addition, do check if there is a nursing room at your office and milk storage facility prepared for your convenience.
Be kind with yourself
As this season change is a tough one, many new moms are too hard on themselves for leaving their babies in the care of others and returning to work. The mom-guilt never fails to haunt us. However, do not let this feeling engulf you and pull you down. It is normal to return to work after giving birth and if you choose to do so, honour your decision with pride and not guilt.
You might end up crying the first few days because of feeling like a horrible mom but trust in the process as it will get better with time. Do remember that you can have the best of both worlds with the right preparation and mindset. Good luck momma!
